Sometimes the stories of couples who are on the verge of a divorce begin with proud words – “we lived in perfect harmony for two years and never quarreled, but then, unexpectedly …”. Those who are alone tormented by doubts about the future also touch on this topic: “we have continuous family conflicts, perhaps the only way out is to leave.”
And there are completely radical options: as soon as a semblance of a quarrel arises, one of the couple is ready to immediately slam the door and leave. Sometimes forever. Without trying to resolve conflicts in a relationship. Because in the minds of many quarrels are something that should not be in family life, otherwise it cannot be considered either “successful”, “successful” or even “normal”. The popular picture of the constantly pouring molasses on both sides, it turns out, is terribly tenacious. And alas, it is very destructive.
There is another extreme. When people don’t even wonder “how to build a dialogue?” When they resigned themselves to swearing. Such couples are already tired of posing as a happy family, and now Continue reading