Symptoms of the crisis of 30 years
Surely most of us have heard such a phrase as “middle-aged crisis,” but for some reason the majority associates it only with males, which in fact is far from true. The crisis of 30 years in women is as common as the middle-aged crisis in men, the only difference in symptoms.
35 years is an insidious figure. When you finally get your head on your shoulders, but your body begins to fall apart. © Karin Lesh
It’s not worth it if you encounter a similar problem to start to panic, since this is a completely natural process – we begin to comprehend the stage we have passed, to compare our achievements with our plans and dreams. In some cases, such a turning point is even necessary, because it helps you look at your life from a completely different angle: correct mistakes or avoid new ones.
As mentioned earlier, the symptoms of this crisis are slightly different in their manifestations depending on the gender of the person. If in men it is connected with the desire to realize oneself in a love field (gray hair in the head, demon in the ribs), then women are reevaluating their own achievement, and some even have a huge disappointment in life. Middle-aged crisis in women – it is worth noting that if you paint absolutely all the symptoms, it would take at least a couple of chapters of a boring scientific treatise. Below are considered the most vivid and most common signs of a middle-aged crisis.
The crisis of 30 years in women is manifested by the following symptoms:
“I am a loser” – the thoughts of approximately the same content haunt most women who could not achieve all that she dreamed of at the age of 20. The problem with this symptom lies primarily in low self-esteem. For example, by the age of 29-30, a woman has reached very successful career heights, her colleagues appreciate and love her, her family members are proud of her, but she did not get married. It would seem that you are only 30, your whole life is ahead, you are successful, beautiful, etc., but you haven’t gotten married – everything, you are automatically an unnecessary catwoman, who is waiting for 40 cats at home. There is a solution to this problem – stop taking everything to heart, stop listening to all “well-wishers”;
Comparison with others is a fairly common cause of samoyedism, which leads to a crisis. But let’s be honest – always someone in something will be better than you. It doesn’t matter, personal life, work – anyway, someone will overtake you, you will not always be the best, and you do not need it. Of course, self-development is wonderful, but the main thing is to love what you dedicate yourself to. So stop tormenting yourself, but just enjoy life without comparing yourself to anyone. You are individual, like any other person. So what is not a reason for pride;
financial issues – unfortunately, our state cannot boast of stability and it is rare for any of us to be confident in the future. And if, when you are 20 years old, you don’t think much about financial problems, due to youthful maximalism, then after you cross the line for 30 years, you unwittingly start thinking about how you will live tomorrow. Indeed, in the end, it is very humiliating to realize that in adulthood you have not reached financial heights;
inability to enjoy life – a crisis of 30 years in women is characterized by a loss of the ability to see the pleasant in the details. This age is characterized by the fact that the joy of minor life amenities is almost nullified due to the many daily problems. Due to this inability to completely take everything from life, you will never succeed, because you will always find a reason that will poison your joy;
regret – tormenting oneself with thoughts on the topic “but everything could have been different if …” had never led to anything good. The reality is that a person stops looking into the future, while analyzing the present, and all the time turns back, creating new options for the development of events, which in fact have already been completed. This is very fraught with the fact that for dreams of how you can change the past, you just miss the opportunity to at least change something in your life now.
emotional immaturity – in other words, a model of the child’s behavior in the body of a mature woman.
inability to make decisions, be responsible for actions – be sure that in the future all this will lead not only to a crisis, but also exacerbate its manifestations, because in fact, a person is not mentally and sometimes materially prepared for its manifestations.
Summarizing the symptoms of a middle-aged crisis in women, we can safely say that in the first place they are associated with emotional restructuring – the hormonal background changes, and life positions are rethought. For this reason, it is better to spend your time on your own self-realization, as well as self-development, rather than regretting that everything could have been otherwise.