How does self-improvement affect relationships?
Self-development and family – interconnected concepts, how does personality and level of development affect the state of the family – the possibility of formation, strength of relationship, the ability to receive joy from life? In this article, we consider the main points that contribute to a happy family relationship, discover the secrets of a strong family.
In modern society, the decline of the institution of the family is observed, often young families break up without having lived a year (up to 50% of all divorces). But in general, no more than 60% of marriage unions remain viable. What is the reason: living conditions, education, people have changed?
Psychologists say that the reason in the people themselves – often do not know how to build relationships, do not understand the needs of the spouse and do not aspire to become a good husband or wife, and yet – are not mentally and financially ready to build a family.
Often, internal egoism prevails over a feeling of love for a loved one. And even loving, we don’t think about the differences in the male and female psyche, we transfer our own feelings and emotions to our spouses. In the article, we will consider in more detail the needs of a man and a woman in the family, what basic principles must be observed for mutual happiness.
The laws of family life
Self-development and family are connected as a manifestation of the desire of spouses to understand each other, to become truly close, reliable friends, loving, attentive. The family develops simultaneously with changes in each of the family members, everything in the world flows and moves, life cannot be static. You need to be ready for change, new hobbies, hobbies.
psychology of family relationships
The main thing is to preserve the inner core, family values. The well-known truth is that a strong family is possible when striving from two sides for a common result, one person cannot keep a balance. Even being perfect – one day, not seeing the appropriate behavior on the part of the second spouse, he will understand the futility of his actions and get tired of investing in relationships, this will be the beginning of the end.
Family is a daily interaction, how to make it effective, what do spouses need to know first?
In an effort to be an ideal spouse, you should develop in yourself the abilities that satisfy the following needs of the spouse
Love and tenderness – a husband should more often show tenderness, hugging and kissing his beloved, say compliments, pay attention. Small gifts also help well: flowers, sweets, romantic letters. Tenderness – provides a wonderful atmosphere in the family, helps strengthen marriage;
Communication – discuss all current issues more, ask how the day went, develop understanding, attentiveness, sensitivity to questions and feelings of the spouse;
Sincerity – strive for trust and openness in relationships, discuss plans for the future, share your ideas. It is important for a woman to feel that a man is reliable, can always help in difficult situations, and is ready to solve all issues;
Financial independence – a good spouse understands that it is necessary to provide for the family in the best way, looking for sources of increasing income, reducing costs. It is advisable to jointly discuss the family budget and major purchases.
Participate in family affairs – pay attention to children, spend time with them, play, read, walk. It’s great happiness for the wife to watch her husband engage in children. It is important to find a balance between family and work, excessive passion for a career can cause the loss of loved ones. After all, the wife needs not only finances, but also to feel involved in family matters, spend time together, communicate.
Self-development and family are related concepts, the spouse needs to improve the qualities and skills for successful interaction, to meet the needs of the spouse. What exactly is needed? Learning to be gentle, attentive, caring, understanding. And also to be a support in the family and a good father.
But how can a spouse become the most beloved and desired, what qualities are necessary to satisfy the basic needs of a man in marriage?
To be a good lover, to satisfy a man’s need for intimate relationships. The woman’s task is to study this topic, learn to give pleasure to the partner, teach him the basic ways that she may like. Everything should be mutually interesting.
To share interests, spend time together. Spouse should be a faithful companion in various hobbies – sports, music, fishing, hunting, etc. Learn more about your spouse, spend time together playing tennis, visiting the pool. Men like to spend time with their beloved wife, to share interests. Support your spouse, be understanding. Find common interests, be more together.
It is always beautiful to look – the spouse watches not only for her inner world, but also for beauty. Attractiveness is very important for men. Try to pay attention to hair, physical fitness, health, find your own style, personality. A man should be proud of his wife, sometimes it’s worth recalling that a beautiful wife is a man’s calling card so that he can go to a manicure or a hairdresser.