How to know that he is the one?
But it usually starts small. How to recognize love?
Another person suddenly causes you emotions – not always positive. It can be surprise, interest, or even negative feelings. But it suddenly becomes meaningful to you. Or not a friend – but after a time, when a long-familiar person causes you unusual excitement, interest
To fall in love is to feel euphoria, to become prettier, to mobilize all your strength! The body responds to another person. “We are anxious, and our body releases adrenaline, which speeds up heartbeat and strengthens sweating,” says sexologist Gislen Paris. According to him, in the human body dopamine, serotonin and endorphins manifest themselves – hormones whose effect is directly opposite to the action of adrenaline. The blood vessels dilate, and a blush blooms on our cheeks. It was not so hot that the writers were so fond of describing how the face of a lover is filled with a paint of embarrassment.
Falling in love is a confusion of feelings. Man feels awkward at the object of his love. He wants to say something bright, extraordinary, to impress, to impress. But, alas, the palms are sweating, the tongue is tangled, to say something clever, even the most banal – it becomes extremely difficult. Therefore, it is so important when going out with a person on a date not to judge him too harshly, to give him the opportunity to better appear himself. After all, the awkwardness in the presence of feelings often spoils the first impression.
The desire to become better! A man pretends, tries to seem more beautiful, smarter, kinder, more successful than he is. “The fear that they will learn about our feelings, the fear of being rejected,” says sexologist Alain Eril, “Our love for ourselves is at stake.” Where is it here to the naturalness of behavior!
Love is the definition of feelings that make us idealize the other. People tend to embellish the subject of their love, idealize it. And how many problems this brings afterwards! The woman did not see what her beloved prefers to drink in the company – and in a life together, his booze with friends did not give her rest. The man did not pay attention that the beloved was consulting with his mother for any reason – and in marriage, he could not build the right relationship with his mother-in-law, who unceremoniously intervenes in a young family. It is important to see the alleged shortcomings (from your point of view) of the chosen one, but not to look for the ideal, because it does not exist! The main thing is to be human, recognize the free will of another, but objectively look at things. And do not immediately enter into a relationship with that person whose personal views, values are fundamentally opposite to yours.
Not always only positive emotions! Sometimes a lover is inclined to resist his feeling, to deny it, to be afraid to plunge headlong into the cycle of emotions. Indeed, it is not uncommon for a man and a woman to have a past marriage or an exhausting relationship that left heart wounds. We must not be afraid to open ourselves to love, because on the foundation of fear you cannot build trust, and without it harmonious relations are impossible.
In love – what is it? And how to distinguish love from falling in love? A good question to ask yourself on time is not too late and not too early. One must give time of love to develop into a deep affection, if possible. How to distinguish love from falling in love with a man?
A man who loves his chosen one is ready to do things for her. He does not seek only sexual satisfaction, pleasant emotions. He is interested in the life of his beloved, he will never put it before a choice: he or a child from his first marriage, for example. He strives for the beloved to be realized in life, to achieve what he wants. The difference between love and falling in love is that the lover thinks more about his beloved than about himself.
How to understand falling in love or love overtook you? Answer the following questions:
Whose feelings are more important to you, yours or your beloved?
Will you give up a loved one for the sake of a chosen one?
Are you ready to refuse to give birth to a loved one?
The answers “yes” do not mean love at all. It was a trick test. The fact is that if, for the sake of your beloved, you are ready to give up what is the deep essence of your personality, this may not mean love, but dependence and weakness. Love is respect for a partner and self-respect. If you completely dissolve in the chosen one, then very soon you will cease to be interesting to your beloved, you will turn into a shadow. You should sacrifice yourself, if a dear person really needs it, you should be in a place in grief, in illness, but regularly yield to your beloved, giving up your personality, betraying yourself – this is not an option!
So what’s the difference between falling in love and loving? The lover thinks more and more to himself, and the lover thinks about his only, beloved man. And how to understand whether this is in love? Wait, give yourself some time! Feelings will sprout and flourish with a magnificent color, and a slight sympathy will melt.