“How can this be? I did everything for him! Who was he when we met? Yes, he didn’t know how to relate the two words, I even helped graduate from the institute, and how many times I corrected his mistakes in life, how many times I helped find a way out of conflicts at work, with relatives, acquaintances! And he … ”Before me sits a woman who is certainly smart, beautiful, well-groomed, with good taste. And very angry and resentful eyes.
There are thousands of such stories. Women are sure that they did the best for husbands: they shared their experience, helped to grow up, supported in difficulties, instilled a taste, opened the door to a world of more subtle feelings – the list can be continued as long as you like. And he, for example, lost interest in her over time. Started a mistress. I went to another – and there may be a list of variations. The bottom line is that he did not appreciate all that she gave him, did not repay devotion and fidelity, did not thank even in words. Sad ending, but absolutely logical. Let’s see why.
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When he’s not around, I just can’t breathe! I do not know what to do, all my thoughts are occupied by him and only him! Sometimes, when we see each other – I’m as if on top of bliss, feelings overwhelm me, it’s a delight! But I have so little of it!
I have tantrums, yes. He leaves again – everything repeats again, I feel bad, hard, sometimes shakes me, I can’t sleep normally. And all life is like a swing, now up and down. I’m very tired….
… When she is nearby – I just have a surge of energy, a fountain of enthusiasm, I can do anything, I’m ready to roll mountains! But as soon as she is not around – weakness, apathy, lethargy, I do not want anything. I constantly think about her. And even when I know that we will not see each other today, I continue to fantasize how good it would be if we spent this evening together …
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Karl Whitaker will remain in the history of family therapy one of her most “avant-garde” classics: brilliant and controversial, sometimes shockingly harsh, prone to mysterious aphorisms that have been interpreted and borrowed for many years. In this book, the reader will find specific working methods, vivid cases from practice and, more importantly, ideas that help to better understand not only their clients, but also their own professional and family history.
The book is addressed to everyone who in their work is connected with family issues: consultants, school and clinical psychologists and, of course, psychotherapists.
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