The golden rules of psychology that change lives and make us happier
The rules of psychology, what are they and why are they needed? We live in a rapidly developing world, constantly in contact with people, strive for something or fall into…

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Why do good families break up?
The psychology of relationships in the family is not an easy topic, psychologists devote a lot of time to it, conduct research, look for causes, consequences. Let's talk about the…

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Women's self-esteem, how to become happy and loved?
How to love yourself and increase self-esteem? The question is important and relevant in the presence of life difficulties, especially on the personal front. Often women tend to sacrifice their…

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Vitaker K. Midnight Meditation by a Family Therapist

Karl Whitaker will remain in the history of family therapy one of her most “avant-garde” classics: brilliant and controversial, sometimes shockingly harsh, prone to mysterious aphorisms that have been interpreted and borrowed for many years. In this book, the reader will find specific working methods, vivid cases from practice and, more importantly, ideas that help to better understand not only their clients, but also their own professional and family history.
The book is addressed to everyone who in their work is connected with family issues: consultants, school and clinical psychologists and, of course, psychotherapists.

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Become what I want! Or a strong desire to change a partner.

It sometimes seems to us that if a person living next to us changes dramatically the way we want it, then family life will get better right away, it will become just perfect. But this practically does not happen.

A changed husband or wife can, on the contrary, worsen the situation in the family – after all, you once fell in love with this particular person. With its shortcomings and good sides. And he suddenly began to come home from work on time, to look into your eyes and wait for the next instructions for the day. He readily fulfills all your desires and all this without objection and annoying bickering. And always close at hand. The robot is simple, not human, you say in a couple of months. Where is your personality and past, even if not very liked, hobbies? Abrupt changes in a person can still suggest some of his troubles. Continue reading

Not expressed emotions as a source of problems

Emotion is an internal subjective attitude of a person to the ongoing processes that surround him. It can be both internal and external stimuli.

emotions as a source of problems
At this point in time, there are two different explanations for the origin of emotions:

physiological (represented by Kennon, James Lange)
psychological (represented by the works of V.P. Simonov)
The difference between these theories is a different understanding and interpretation of the various mechanisms that create the emotional background of a person.

In physiological theory, there are two currents that try to explain the processes of occurrence. The peripheral theory is well expressed in one of the most famous paradoxes and sounds like this: “We feel sad because we are crying; we are afraid because we are trembling. ” According to the authors of the Continue reading

Female psychology in love and relationships
The psychology of women in love is significantly different from that of men, women are emotional, impressionable, love is perceived in a more romantic light, idealization of a loved one…

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Wife like mom
“How can this be? I did everything for him! Who was he when we met? Yes, he didn’t know how to relate the two words, I even helped graduate from…

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What is shyness? Its manifestations and consequences
For most of us, shyness is a sign of something very sweet, kind, even plush. In our eyes, a shy person automatically becomes either a knight or a princess. But…

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Family Contract Basics Questionnaire
Questionnaire "Fundamentals of a family contract" - a list of questions developed by N.I. Kozlov for the prevention of disagreements in the family. Based on the Questionnaire, a Family Agreement…

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