“How can this be? I did everything for him! Who was he when we met? Yes, he didn’t know how to relate the two words, I even helped graduate from the institute, and how many times I corrected his mistakes in life, how many times I helped find a way out of conflicts at work, with relatives, acquaintances! And he … ”Before me sits a woman who is certainly smart, beautiful, well-groomed, with good taste. And very angry and resentful eyes.
There are thousands of such stories. Women are sure that they did the best for husbands: they shared their experience, helped to grow up, supported in difficulties, instilled a taste, opened the door to a world of more subtle feelings – the list can be continued as long as you like. And he, for example, lost interest in her over time. Started a mistress. I went to another – and there may be a list of variations. The bottom line is that he did not appreciate all that she gave him, did not repay devotion and fidelity, did not thank even in words. Sad ending, but absolutely logical. Let’s see why.
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Karl Whitaker will remain in the history of family therapy one of her most “avant-garde” classics: brilliant and controversial, sometimes shockingly harsh, prone to mysterious aphorisms that have been interpreted and borrowed for many years. In this book, the reader will find specific working methods, vivid cases from practice and, more importantly, ideas that help to better understand not only their clients, but also their own professional and family history.
The book is addressed to everyone who in their work is connected with family issues: consultants, school and clinical psychologists and, of course, psychotherapists.
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It is not difficult to become a good wife, because many qualities have been inherent in you for a long time. Even in childhood, a mother teaches her daughter how to cook or housekeeping – in short, to be a good housewife. This is an important skill for the wife – to feed her husband and children deliciously, to create home comfort, having to clean, wash and stroke everything. This is taught by many girls, but not all of them later successfully put these skills into practice, and a good wife successfully copes with all these tasks – either by herself or by attracting family members to help, but always with love.
Caring for others and cheerfulness are other important qualities of a good wife, and she is valued above the first by smart men. A woman fills a house with joy and light, it depends on her responsiveness and good mood whether life in it will be happy.
A faithful friend and colleague for the spouse – this is another quality inherent in the definition of “good wife”. The girl was lucky if in childhood dad was involved in the upbringing process and taught his daughter, having removed excessive emotionality, to use his mind and try to prevent words from diverging from the deed. These Continue reading